All our lives we have been told that we needed to toughen up. We have heard, “You’re fine. Stop crying.” or “You’re being dramatic.” Too many times we have been told that, when we really weren’t okay. When we really needed to just cry and let it out.
You’re not weak for not being okay. There should be no shame in not being okay. Being able to admit that you’re not okay shows true braveness and strength. It doesn’t make you less of a person.
I feel like it’s harder to say the words, “I’m not okay.” than it is to hide it. We have had to pretend to be okay all our lives because there is such a stigma about opening up. We have been told, “Toughen up. You are fine, quit whining. Just put up with it, you don’t have it that bad.” All that does is ignore how we feel. It has made us feel as if our feelings and emotions are not valid, or that we aren’t being heard. When in reality everyone deserves and needs to be heard and validated. You deserve to be heard and validated.
To be honest, this last week I haven’t been okay. I feel like I’ve been on overload. I have been feeling scared and uncertain. Flashbacks have been bad, anxiety has been high and it seems as if my depression is getting worse. I’m not hiding that I’m not okay. Because all hiding does is make it worse. I am acknowledging the feelings I am feeling and working through it. Doing the things I need to do to help myself. And most importantly I don’t have to hide that I am not okay. I don’t have to pretend or worry about hiding it anymore. And neither do you. Because not being okay is MORE than okay. And most importantly, we are going to be okay.
As Always,
You Deserve Peace
You’re Not Your Diagnosis
You Are Not Alone
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